Nothing in the world can ever go as smoothly as we like.
This happens in all aspects of life and even in the world
of adoption. Occasionally, a child gets adopted into a
family and it doesn’t turn out to be the right move. There
could be a number of factors that could lead to an adoption
dissolution. This is often called “unadoption”.
Adoption dissolution isn’t very common when it involves a
newborn or infant. It becomes more frequent with foster
children who have problems adapting to their new
environment and other family members such as siblings.
Siblings might tease the adopted child constantly or the
adopted child might be very mean or abusive to new family
members. Often this can be resolved through counseling or
other forms of behavioral modification but not always.
Older children sometimes have a history of being adopted
many different times by various families. This doesn’t mean
they are bad children but could be due to medical issues.
ADHD and reactive attachment disorder can cause problems
for adoptive parents who don’t understand these disorders
completely and just can’t deal with them.
Sometimes adoption dissolution is the only choice so the
child can find a family better equipped to handle their
Sometimes, the child might ask for an adoption dissolution.
In some states, the law allows children to request this if
they are at least 14 years old. The end result could place
them back into a foster home or with some other relatives.
This is a very emotional event that can affect parent and
child alike but may be unavoidable.